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[quote=Anonymous]Spouse grew up with FIL mostly not home  - FIL traveled for "work" whenever they FIL had any opportunity (had a career/company/place where they could "sign up" for the work trips, and the destinations were always beautiful - where is not relevant).  The at home parent was checked out and not the best parent, always overwhelmed, not usually paying attention, probably depressed, definitely anxious. So, now DH is in same situation as FIL (who literally left the house and literally booked trips during major family milestones, such as most or all of their children's births) and DH is acting similar.

DH is not very good at therapy (not forthcoming), and it is very, very unusual for DHs family to talk about any problems.  MIL is absolutely and extremely bitter about how MIL was treated, but DH thinks how their parents behaved was/is normal (since it is what they witnessed growing up).  Has anyone been through this, and if so - can you recommend what worked so that the family unit is closer?  Example:  we have miles, so any work trips would be paid for, so money is not the issue, but spouse likes to use that as an excuse.  I feel bad for DC, whose friend's families take them places (does not have to be fancy), but DH had such a terrible experience when the IL's "vacationed", DH does not see traveling as a family event.  Would love to hear from people who have been through this very unusual issue, and what they did about it. Hope I explained this clearly.  [/quote]

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