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[quote=Anonymous]I’m sure you are very upset. After an hour or so of them being alone, speak with each one separately to unpack what happened. Then bring them together to calmly share how disappointed you are. This is not the family you are raising. It’s okay to disagree with one another. It’s never going to be okay to be violent like that. You can share the many ways they could have resolved this before resorting to physically hurting one another.

As their parent, let them know that it is your job to keep them safe. And when they make unsafe choices, it’s your job to step in and make choices for them. Starting now and for the next 3 weeks, including vacation, they will have zero access to video games on any screen. ZERO ACCESS. Not in the car, not on vacation, not at a friend’s house, NOTHING. This situation is that serious.

At the end of 3 weeks, you will sit down with them to write a plan for how they will stay safe and kind while playing video games. Perhaps it will include time limits. They will need to come up with ideas. Only when you feel this plan is acceptable will you return access. You can also let them know that if anything close this happens again, ALL access will be cut off for 6 months.

Everything hinges on you being consistent with this consequence. Engage your spouse and any other family members.

You can do this. They need this. [/quote]

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