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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]"But I always felt like I gave away my teenage years to this church that had horrible leadership and worst of all we’re hypocrites."

[b]What does this mean?  Did you go to school at this church or something?  Did it occupy everything in your life? [/b] What exactly would you have rather been doing as a teen other than being a "perfect Christian girl?"  Sex, drugs, rock and roll?

Sorry you had an unpleasant church experience, but you sound kind of dramatic.   Either go to church or don't go, people are always going to have an opinion on your choices and if you decide to worry about their opinion you have a long, hard road ahead of you.

I go to church and wear a cross, do you think people don't have judgments about that?  They definitely do and they feel free to share them with me, and that's ok.  People are allowed to have an opinion and I am allowed to ignore that opinion.  Even my mother does not like my choices even though I "stayed" in the church, it is not in her preferred way.  Guess what, that is HER problem, not mine.[/quote]

Don't be dense. OP clearly meant that she felt pressured by her family to attend. In addition to being a financially dependent minor, she didn't feel as though she could say no to her parents without facing heavy criticism or rejection. In super religious families, the church is also the community. She probably wasn't allowed to have much of a social life outside of church events and functions. [/quote]

Oh my, she didn't have a social life outside of church!  What a tragedy!

I'm not saying this is nothing, but we are ALL victims of our parents' whims as teens.  My parents were very religious and our church was EXTREMELY lame (boy could I write a vent post) and it was the center of our social life too and they should have chosen something else.  Some people are dragged around to sports they don't like or pressured into music or all kinds of stuff.  I just wanted to know if OP was from some extreme cult-type situation (in which case I would have some sympathy) but it just seems like she is a young, dramatic person who had a "bad" church experience and feels like she missed out on "life" (she didn't, few people have awesome teen years).[/quote]

It is a tragedy to waste years of your life doing a time-consuming activity that you disagreed with and don't want to do. It's also years that OP could've spent doing something that she enjoyed and that enriched her life.

My parents were strict but they weren't assholes. They never created an environment where their love was conditional upon belonging to the same religious organization (or religion, in general).  
A teenager is old enough to have an informed opinion on something as personal and individual as religion. If I, as teenager, told my parents that I didn't want to go church, they wouldn't liked it but they would've respected it. I knew that I could disagree with them on something like this and they would still love me.

Forcing (directly or indirectly) your kids to attend church is not a parental "whim" and it's certainly not okay. 
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