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[quote=Anonymous]Can you have a conversation with your husband about this? Tell him how you're feeling on the weekends, the type of things you like to do, that you understand the type of things he likes to do and want to engage in that as well, what would be a good compromise and come up with a good solution that works for the both of you? This seems like the most healthy way to handle this. Communicate with your husband and together identify a way to meet both your needs. I don't think just leaving him out is a great solution. Maybe you decide together that every other saturday you switch the type of activity. This saturday it's Mom's preferred type of activity, next Saturday it's more relaxed with dad, just lunch and the park. Then on Sundays you switch off - one sunday with mom and next sunday with Dad so you both get 1:1 time with child AND both get your alone time. But you need to work on this together, that's how relationships function best. Your child will benefit from seeing you collaborate, work out a disagreement and compromise.  You'll probably have to continue the discussions over time, it won't be a one time thing. It's normal to have different preferences, my husband and I have to make these kind of compromises as well - the key is that we both are willing to consider the others needs and think hmm dh probably won't love that activity, let's do x this week and vice versa he does the same for me. Or sometimes I just say I know x isn't your favorite but I'd really like to do it this weekend. And he does the same. Also doing things without each other some of the time is totally ok too! Mom really doesn't like this activity so Dad and dc are going to go and vice versa. But it should be an active convo! [/quote]

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