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[quote=Anonymous]Just a vent. I find it more likely for me to be unhappy if I and 3 year old DS going out with DH, because most of the times things are not going as planned if we include DH. I don't know if I should often include DH in our weekend morning/early afternoon outing anymore.

Is it okay for I & DS often going out without DH all the time on weekends? I think DH does not mind at all since he can have many personal free time on his own. However, I wonder how's that going to affect father-son relationship in the long run? What annoys me the most are DH likes to change our weekend plan (suggest other places to go & eat), come home earlier as planned, and I feel that him coming along is more a burden rather than a joy. He is a bit self-centered, and his favorite weekend activities are going out to lunch & playground or walk around. My favorite weekend activities to take DS are exploring around, e.g. farmer market, nature center, shopping, playground, water splash park, go to festival, library etc. I don't mind getting sweaty/wet/dirty. DS tells me that he prefers only me & him going out, and without DH. However, part of me feels guilty if we do not include DH in our weekend plan. Isn't it part of a normal family relationship that we should often do things together as a family?

I often end up taking DS out early in the morning to play as early as 9am, and then have DH joining us for lunch (noon), but it does not always work because sometimes we are faraway(1 hr away) from home & DS does not want to leave early to meet for lunch. I don't think DH is the type of dad that loves to do things altogether as family, and part of me just wants to accept this truth as it is, but part of me also wants him to change (that's where we have argument that he does not do much as a dad role to DS). I am really conflicted that I want to include DH in our weekend plan, but his presence often makes me unhappy. It is partly my fault as well because I am not patient & emotional.  DH's dad (FIL) never did much for DH, and DH is like a better replica version of FIL.

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