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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Spin off from the thread about how someone’s DH seems to be a bit resentful that his sister is getting full time babysitting from ILs while he may not get as much help as a result. I think about this a lot as my MIL is providing free child care to SIL and BIL who have the money but since we will have kids later, we will be lower on the list for help and we will shell out the full cost for daycare though objectively we need the help more (I’m in intense grad school program so just one income and my family leaves far away so no help from them while SIL has both sides helping). On one hand I feel like it’s my responsibility but it does stink that the first person to have a baby essentially gets the grandparents and the bonding relationship. Has this happened to anyone else? Should grandparents try to be “fair” with how they take care of grandkids?
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So if MIL will be too old when you have kids, she should decline to give free childcare to BIL/SIL now because ‘fairness’?

Point is, of course these variations happen in the natural course of life. [/quote]

Op here they won’t be much older as we plan on having kids next year. I totally agree with everyone that you can’t expect it but it still hurts to not have help and save all our pennies when BIL buys more cars with the money he is saving with no child care [/quote]

You are a piece of work.  I would understand the feeling just a little if it were your own mom, but when you think it is your place to judge how your MIL spends her time or to decide that MIL owes you something because BIL is a successful earner while you choose to be in grad school, that’s just whackadoodle.

Come back when MIL/FIL pass away.  It will be amusing to see your entitlement-fueled rage at all the inheritance unfairness.[/quote]

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