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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I can’t say I regret having DS. I love him more than anything. But I have a hard time with “fun” things not being fun. We are currently on our first of two trips this summer. Built this one around an event based on DS’s interest. The actual event was fun, but everything else has been painful. Complaining, whining etc. Sure it’s hot, but we’ve been taking plenty of breaks. DH and I would make the best of it, but with DS it’s so difficult.

It feels like every time we do something “fun” it just leaves us frustrated and annoyed. DS is almost 8 so it should be easy (easier) by now. But I ask myself why we think next time will be different. I’m seriously thinking of asking my parents if they’ll watch DS for our second planned trip this summer. I just want a real vacation without having to feel frustrated and annoyed. Maybe I have unreasonable expectations, but is it so bad to stop including DS in this stuff for a little bit until I’m better equipped to handle it and not feel resentful that I spent time to plan, money to pay for it and PTO in order to do these things but come home more stressed than when I left?

I want to be making family memories but I also have personal needs outside of being a parent. I see people all the time who seem to love traveling with their kids and doing all kinds of outings. For us it’s a 75% chance it will be frustrating and annoying and 25% chance it will actually be fun. That may be generous. I feel like a crappy parent but I see friends and others who seem to be able to have family fun and don’t understand why it eludes us. We only have one kid, it shouldn’t be that hard!

I think I just miss freedom to relax and have fun. [/quote]

I am right there with you. We have two kids. My oldest is 9, and very difficult. We end up frustrated and feeling upset after almost every outing. And my kids fight, too. At least you don’t have sibling rivlary![/quote]

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