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DH & I have struggled to have children the last few years.  We went through in vitro and successfully am now pregnant with a son.  Since in vitro is an incredibly controlled process, the gender of the embryos (5 of them) that were viable & healthy were revealed to us and they were 4 male with 1 female.  The embryo the doctors transferred this time happened to be male.

I am ecstatic about having a son.  When I told my Mother, her face kinda fell.  She has 2 grandsons already and seems to always place me with having girls.  (Just FYI- I have one sister who has the 2 boys who is probably done and 1 brother who just got married & has no kids yet).  Her immediate question was "Did you ask them to transfer the girl? Why wouldn't you want to go for it?"  I'm really hurt by her response and hate this bizarre category she is putting me in.  I regret telling her the information about the embryos in the first place but she badgered me into it.  I know she'll love the baby when it comes, but she has this idea in her head that her future granddaughters are coming from me.

I would be happy with whatever I got at this point- DH and I have been wanting this for awhile but now that I am fully pregnant with a son we have embraced it and it's been wonderful.  We may have a daughter in the future but we may not- and I'm more than ok with all of the above scenarios!  
Thoughts on how to handle it with my Mother?  [/quote]

Np. I'm sorry your mother is not being supportive.  Are you planning on having more than one? If so, perhaps you can say the girl is the next one.  If not, say im sorry you ate not thrilled that we are having a baby.  I know your feelings about it but please dont mention it again as we are happy to have a baby and your comments are hurtful and unnecessary.[/quote]

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