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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don’t know if I’m posting this in the right place but wondering if anyone has experienced, or is experiencing this. My DH loves our 2 and 1 year old daughters, I know he does, but he does not seem to enjoy spending extended amounts of time with them. Extended as in, one full day (not by himself but all together as a family). In fact, he’s said as much, and said that it “feels like work” to him. He says he is just so exhausted after a couple hours with them that he checks out. I can then tell he is miserable, and it upsets me that he can’t just enjoy his family in the moment. Am I being unrealistic? Maybe I’m expecting something different because I personally am the happiest I’ve ever been and all I really want to do when I’m home (we both work FT) is spend time with my kids and my husband. He also says he “needs more of [my] attention and encouragement” and I can’t help but want to scream bc i already feel like im being pulled in a million directions! [/quote]
There are two things going on here. One is that your husband is overwhelmed by caring for two toddlers by himself, which isn't great but is understandable since two toddlers at the same time is fairly exhausting, particularly if you are not experienced. He needs to become more comfortable with taking care of them. My recommendation would be that he either try shorter stretches with both of them (e.g., you go out for 1 hour by yourself on Saturday) or longer stretches with just one of them (e.g., he takes 2yo to playground for an hour and then to lunch afterward).

[b]The second thing is that your husband misses his wife, who is 100% focused on "the family" and not "the marriage." He is not likely to work on the first problem while the second one continues[/b]. [/quote]
This. It is actually the bigger issue and needs to be addressed first. [/quote]

PP here. I agree.

OP, having children that close together is very stressful. You guys were still in the thick of the baby phase with your first when you were pregnant with the second. Was your husband enthusiastically taking care of your older child before the second arrived? [/quote]

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