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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Be careful OP. If his depression is truly disabling, and the government agrees, you may get tagged with spousal support for life. [/quote]

If they are long term partners but have never gotten married, she will not be responsible for supporting him.  There are advantages to being unmarried.

OP, I left a long term partner with bipolar disorder.  It was a huge relief to me.  He tried to reconcile for a couple of years.  Eventually he found another woman to take care of him.  I think the split was good for him as well, as it meant he had to keep some kind of work and having some kind of structure is important, even when depressed.  Our split also encouraged him to take his illness seriously, and he started to see a doctor and take meds.  Over the last decade he has been better or worse about complying with meds, but that is not my problem anymore.  TBH, splitting up was also best for him.

I'm a little perplexed how you will manage this?  Surely, your partner will be saying things about moving into a new place prior to your actual move out day?  IMO, you will have to pull the trigger a couple of months at least before the actual termination of your tenancy and move out.  I would leave him 2-3 months on the lease by himself -- maybe he can get a short term roommate and earn some income that way.  Plus, I would basically let him keep whatever security deposit from your current place and use it for his own new place.  I would definitely not sign any new lease with him.  All of that is assuming you can afford it.  You should not endanger yourself financially to help him.

In my circumstance, I kicked my ex out with only 2 day's notice.  (Circumstances called for that.)  He had to own up and ask a friend to crash on her couch.  He didn't tell or ask his own family for support, rather he asked a work colleague who was an alcoholic.  I guess he felt he would get more sympathy from her about his messing up. [/quote]

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