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[quote=Anonymous]I'm very ready to move on from my long-term partner, who has depression and has been unemployed long-term. On the surface to others he seems functional -- we go places, hang out on the weekends, he maintains friendships (although mostly via WhatsApp and FB with former classmates in his hometown, rather than in-person friendships). I believe he has ADD, which contributes to his inability to focus on things like job applications. He says he also has anxiety.

Realistically, he's not going to find work anytime soon if major things don't change. He's been out of the labor force too long and the jobs he talks about applying to are unrealistic at this point. He doesn't follow up with treatment and doesn't really believe in therapy.

I don't love him anymore and cannot continue to support him financially.

I have a window of opportunity to leave because we have to move out of our apartment shortly (landlord is selling). My plan is to move into my own place and basically let him fend for himself. He has siblings (including a wealthy sister) and my hope is that he would reach out to them for help. I realize I've enabled him and I'm hoping his family could do something. He would be mortified if he had to ask them for help and he'll focus a tremendous amount of anger and verbal abuse on me once this goes down.

I feel like I have to let him hit rock bottom, unfortunately, to keep myself from drowning and supporting him forever. I have to save myself, but don't want anything truly terrible to happen to him in the meantime.

Do you have any advice based on your experience leaving someone with depression and/or long-term unemployment?

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