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[quote=Anonymous]My wife and I have been married for over 20 years. She had an emotional affair with somebody from back in high school. It lasted for maybe six or seven months. During that time, we were going through IVF. This was, of course, after I thought she had stopped the affair. I also had to have two surgeries for sperm extraction. I learned that she kept up the affair a day after the surgery.

My therapist was horrible. I wasn't able to talk about her or her AP because it made her feel bad. I was even told by the marriage therapist "your ego is just hurt and you need to discuss that with your therapist." I just fell into the worst state of depression. She finally decided to work on her marriage.

Fast forward, things, worked out and we now have a beautiful six-year old daughter. However, I still feel terrible. I feel like she's only with my out of guilt and that I shouldn't have tried so hard -like I pushed it. I lost respect for myself, still resentful and sorta regretting all of this. Like I should have just moved on, but I was scared.

Things are fine, but I can't get over it. I am also diagnosed with OCD and depression and every time that I feel low, the affair is the first thing that I think about.

God I'm pathetic.

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