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[quote=Anonymous]I just discovered my BF of a year cheated on me with another woman. When I first suspected something and asked him,  he lied and said nothing happened. After I found undeniable truth, he admitted that he had unprotected sex with her. I didn’t discover this until after we had unprotected sex. Over the course of the relationship he admitted that he had cheated multiple times on his ex wife, all without using any protection. He works in a profession with frequent travel, and uses the time out of town for one night stands.

I want nothing to do with him, but I don’t know what to do with this information. I would’ve liked if someone had told me that he was a serial cheater before I fell in love with him. After I learned of the cheating past, I was so far in I deluded myself into thinking I was different. That he wouldn’t cheat on me. I have the number of the new woman, and I’m contemplating telling her about how he was seeing us both at the same time. That he was having unprotected sex with both of us days apart. I’d also tell her about his serial cheating past.

Some of my motivation is for her benefit. She seems like a nice single mom that likely has no clue about my ex. Of course I also want to do this for revenge. I really loved him and we were planning to move in together and talked marriage. We were integrated into each other’s families. His made many grand romantic gestures and swore I was the woman that was enough for him to not cheat. I’m deeply hurt over the end of the relationship, and angry he could throw away our relationship so easily.

FWIW he was very remorseful and admitted he has a problem. Self sabotages his life and can’t control himself if an opportunity presents itself. I think he’s a sex addict that won’t stop his philandering until he gets help. Should I tell her or just let her find out on her own?  I’m going to my doctor to get some sexually transmitted disease testing, but don’t have any obvious signs now.

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