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[quote=Anonymous]Dad died 1.5 years ago, Mom 3 years ago. Estate was set up pretty straight forward, 6 way split w/siblings has become ugly score settling vendetta since parents assigned awful BIL as executor. My sister is 2nd wife and while its on her-he did bait & switch of yes to kids then no after 4 years stringing her on afterwards.  He’s always been an a-hole. Except for sending mandated checks to his son from 1st marriage stopped contact as he was insulted kid when 8 didn’t send Father’s Day card.

From not providing ANY information-i.e., we had to find actual will on our own (parents had told us their intent) to changing locks and selling my Dad’s house without giving anyone notice-BIL seems to have gone out of his way to be as cold hearted as possible. While I don’t hold my sister blameless, for instance, I live close by my parent’s home and did a lot of care for my Dad so, even if sad, would have been nice to have a time to ‘say good bye’ to home truly for last time. We had one day after funeral to go to house to pick up personal stuff never knowing it was last time (so no photos or momentos that had emotional value only - like my Mom’s cookbooks.) Turns out there was one codicil to will that could have been read both ways. BIL dropped it just before we had to sign agreement to ‘accept’ accounting so for last 3 weeks its pitted one group of siblings against others. (The $$$, while way more than we’d expected, will not be life changing for any of us as its divided by 6.) The way BIL handled was SO awful attorney HE hired admonished him and threatened to quit.

I guess just a vent but I really feel nothing but hurt and resentment that my parents allowed this awful man to become the conduit of their last acts. Whatever they intended their legacy I’m at the point I want nothing to do with any sibling save one and just hope our kids/all the cousins can find a way back to each other.[/quote]

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