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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]In the younger years, go with the classiest coaches.

I have moved my kids from Clubs with coaches that play antics and scream the entire game and I don't care if they are 'winning' or the biggest.best.Club in the area.  They raising a generation of little sh*ts and a sideline of awful parents.

My kids play for a Club where the coaches are virtually silent during matches.  They don't get overly emotional.  They don't scream at the refs.  They are managing their players emotions (esp the 13/14 year olds) when the testosterone is raging and they start getting mouthy.  They will pull even their star out of the game and have him sit for awhile.

They have the players shake the refs hands after the match even if they didn't care for the calls.  It's sport and it's over at the end.

I will never understand the screaming at a ref.  I played soccer for 25 years quite competitively and the only thing I learned is that if you scream at the ref that most likely the future questionable calls will not go your way the rest of the game or you will be booted from the field and be watching it from the sidelines.  My boys know this and don't do this.  IF either of my sons snapped at the refs or their coach or teammates, they would be in a whole helluva lot of trouble later that day.

And, my number 1 pet peeve of all time, is the sideline coaching from parents.  I literally want to neck throttle parents when they start doing it.  And, once one starts in they all start getting worked up and the entire sideline changes.  And, here's the thing, by the time your voice reaches the field a player has already had to make a decision in his/her head.  You are already 3 steps behind.  This is leaving out the fact that the majority of these sideline offenders don't even know what the hell they are watching and are often yelling things completely contradictory to what the coach has told the players to do.

Kids learn by making decisions themselves on the field.  And, most often, it's the WRONG decisions that end up making the biggest change in their future play.  They will never forget they were the reason a goal went in by leaving a man unmarked or that they weren't at the outside post in time when the cross was made.  let.them.make.mistakes.

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I have definitely been one of these parents. I used to rationalize it but there is no good reason to say anything to any player, coach or referee during a game and I would have despised it when I was younger. (My parents never went to games and other parents stayed quiet many years ago.). I have reined it in considerably since moving to a club and team where sidewhining/yelling is strongly discouraged. Still working on losing the actual impulse to say something. [/quote]

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