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[quote=Anonymous]The divorce rate among college educated people is actually pretty low, so you are contemplating marriage with people who have already proven to be high risk. And, if they already have kids, they bring an extra level of complications that put stress on a marriage. You are right to be careful.

However, as the PP said, that is different than a first marriage when both people are just starting out. I met my husband in my early twenties, married him in my late twenties, and we built our family and our careers together for two decades before getting to your age. It was a wonderful experience and the help and support was very valuable to both of us. If something were to happen and either one of us remarried at this point, our next marriage would be different. Not necessarily unhappy, but definitely not as integral to the people we are. That may be what you are picking up on, OP. You are looking at a marriage that is about sharing a life that is largely built rather than a marriage based on building a life together. Make sure you are comparing apples to apples when trying to figure out if a situation will make you happy. [/quote]

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