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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Honestly, don't bother.  Find other friends.  This type of mom doesn't want to be your friend.[/quote]

Agree.  Maybe not that they don’t want to be your friend- but you are in two different worlds.  They mostly see each other at day time things.  You are working.  I doubt they meet up in the evenings often.  Probably once in a blue moon.    I SAH and so do most of my friends.  There is one mom I’m fond of, I don’t know that I’d call her a great friend, but I enjoy her company.  She works full time and I met her through an extracurricular activity our kids were in together and they happen to be classmates at the same school which I wasn’t aware of (since she never does pick up).

They only way we socialize together is if they have all of us over for dinner or us them.  Which we try to do every couple months.  Otherwise, I would never run into her except for if our kids were signed up for the same thing by coincidence.  To meet up with any working mom outside of typical work hours means I either bring the whole family or leave the whole at home.  Both are harder to do and take more effort and coordination.

Keep your work friends close.  There are usually a good number or working moms that attend evening extracurricular sports and activity.  I would put more effort into meeting the moms at these things.  [/quote]

I'm the "honestly don't bother" poster and yes, this is the vibe I get from many SAHMs at our school.  Like PP, they only want to socialize during the daytime, and when they are at evening activities, they are going to stay with their group and are not open to chatting with moms they're not familiar with.

Fortunately, I met most of my friends during the preschool years (when all the moms were working moms so at least we had that in common), so I'm not as stressed about making friends with the other moms in elementary school.  I've met a few other moms through my daughter's girl scout troop, but as the girls get older, those are turning more and more into drop offs, so parents aren't sticking around.  If you belong to a pool, that's also a potential social opportunity - we just got off our waitlist and while we haven't met anyone new yet, we've said "hi" to some of DD's friends' parents when she's mentioned "Oh, that's Larla, she's in my class".  [/quote]

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