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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I got pregnant easily with one at 35, and had an easy pregnancy/delivery.  I started TTC #2 when my son was 10 months old and learned that I had mildly low ovarian reserve, but was told that I should still be able to get pregnant.  I thought I could still get pregnant, did infertility treatments that all failed.  It's now been 5 years of TTC #2 and I've never been pregnant a second time.  In 5 years of TTC every year, 3 IUIs, and 5 IVFs I've had zero pregnancies which I just can't believe.  I am now in my early 40s and we're going to stop TTC very soon and try to be happy with a very small family.

The first 3 years of my infertility were extremely hard.  I was the first of my friends to start TTC #2 and now I'm the only one who still has one, the rest of my friends are on baby #3 now (all our kids are age 6).  I often get asked why I still "have just the one."  That is such a painful question to be asked, and it upsets me every time.

We decided not to do donor egg or adoption, due to various reasons including being financially tapped out from all the infertility treatments that were not covered by insurance.

It's hard for me to be around my friends sometimes, who all are growing their families, when I cannot.  I have sought out other only child families to be friends with, which is helpful.  I tried therapy, which was useless.

I am definitely not over the emotional pain of being able to grow my family, although it's easier to deal with than it was earlier in my infertility journey.  Time really does heal.  My family still feels incomplete.  I do try to focus on all the benefits of being OAD though.  I do have a lot of free time to pursue my own interests and hobbies, which is really nice.[/quote]

I’m sorry, PP. This sounds really tough. [/quote]

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