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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Perspective mostly. I had primary infertility. I'm lucky to have the one I have, I'm lucky she's healthy and on track developmentally. I'm also enjoying that as she gets older the constraints on where we can take her and what we can/can't do are disappearing and think about if I had another kid I'd be starting over in the baby phase with that kid. I remember the lack of sleep in my kids first year and how hard being pregnant was and how scary the emergency delivery was. I do get twinges of sadness when a friend announces a pregnancy, but it is fleeting and the thoughts don't run my life (if that is happening to you perhaps talking to someone about it might help?). Most of my friends are approaching their 40s though and the pregnancy announcements are much less frequent, and the joys of a more independent kid are increasing all the time.[/quote]

NP, but this describes my feelings exactly.  We also had primary infertility and went through 3 years of IUI/IVF/FET to conceive DD.  We've been trying for a second for the last 2.5 years with no luck (including one loss).  I've begun to make peace with having an only, for all of the reasons PP mentioned.  DH, on the other hand, is struggling with it and wants to keep pursuing treatment.  Frankly, it's contributing to problems within our marriage.[/quote]

Another primary IF poster---we are an adoptive family.  I go back and forth still.  I am concerned that if the adoption does not go through, my child will be sad (even though if a family can stay together that is good for a first family).  I worry about how to prepare a child for a sibling, if the sibling is not guaranteed....I know other families have dealt with this, but this is what is occupying my mind.[/quote]

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