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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Since becoming a parent, I find it hard to make and keep real friendships. Prekids, I met up with people at work and with DH’s coworkers. If their wives and I get it off, it was fun to hang out all together getting drinks or watching sports games.

Now, I meet other moms with kids similar in age to mine and it’s weird to navigate. Are they just meeting up to have kid play dates? Are they interested in becoming friends? Are they just burning time until they go back to work? Eg I have two mom friends (they don’t know each other) who both initiated meeting up with me initially and every time say what a good time they had and how we should do it again. But then they NEVER initiate. I invite them to play at a play place or in my home or at a park and they jump to meet. But if I wait to see if they do any inviting, it’s crickets. Are neither of them interested in hanging out? I’m also new to the area, is this indicative of the area in general? I’d rather people decline invites and say they don’t want to hang out rather than eagerly accept and never ever reciprocate. [/quote]

Be patient. It takes time. It’s like dating but platonic friends. Be friendly but don’t appear needy. If they keep accepting your invites they must like you enough to accept. Believe me if they didn’t want to they would have a million excuses. [/quote]

But how many times do I have to invite and how long do I wait to invite again? I am not desperate to hang out with these women, but they both seem nice and like women I could actually be friends wth except for the lack of invitation. One of these women I hung back on inviting and 6 months went by! I finally invited her to coffee with our kids and she seemed so happy and said any day or time I picked would be fine. It’s been 3 months since then and I haven’t heard from her and haven’t reached out again.

I was thinking they would have excuses if they didn’t want to meet, but then I wondered if they were just being nice and hoping I could take the hint if they never reciprocated. [/quote]

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