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[quote=Anonymous]There are challenging family dynamics.   The parents are divorced and it was a nasty divorce (mostly around money because there was an obscene amount of it)
Children are in custody of mother.   Cousin is father.

We used to see them once a year when the child was aged 2-7 as we were the only family in the area and would get together for birthday parties.   As the kids got older, less family birthdays -  and we never found the time to connect.   Christmas card would be sent back as they moved and we did not have the new address.   We would see each other possibly every three years at a family event.

I interpret the announcement as - oh that's nice.  They needed to buy the announcements in set of 25 or 50 and had extras so sent us one.

My husband looks at it as an invitation to the graduation and feels obliged to send a gift.   He was going to send a check.   I find it tacky for someone you have not seen or heard from in 4 years to send a graduation announcement.   I also think it is inappropriate to send a check to a child who has a personal net worth of more than $1M [the cousin shared how divorce settlement was set up].   I said - send a small gift from the school the child will be attending - something like a Tervis cup or school mug.

Questions for DCUM:
1 - would you attend the HS Graduation?  [note- we have not received any communication from the cousin]
2 - what would you give as a gift? [/quote]

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