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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think amongst parents and kids you don't ask when you can visit and most people don't invite others. Don't you call up your parents and say you want to visit for Easter or Thanksgiving? I don't think I've ever been invited to my parents or inlaw's house. [/quote]

As a single person, I would ask if my parents would be around when I wanted to come.  But it would be normal for me to stay there even if they were out-of-town.

But when spouses and kids become involved, it’s different.  My parents would want to have time available if I were bringing my kids to their house.

Meanwhile, it is different for parents to show up at a kid+spouse’s home vs. a kid going to his parents’ (and his own childhood) home.

The sense of entitlement and the total lack of a boundary that the OP’s in-laws have would drive me nuts.  Announcing a visit in front of the children without first confirming the plan with us would bother me more than any inconvenience of actually having guests.[/quote]

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