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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why does counseling embarrass you?

I'd like to hear his side of the story before making a decision. I'm guessing it's has a lot of info not included above. Have you consider a professional mediator?[/quote]

A few items:

1.  I don't like counseling because I feel it doesn't work.  He brings out all our dirty laundry before some stranger and our problems are not resovled.  Example:  10 years ago, he filed for divorce.  I convinced him to pull it back.  We went to counseling, but he still ended taking an overseas assignment rather than find a new job like I was begging him to.  He left me and my DD and went off, and I know he probably cheated on me during that assignment.  He had to, because when I visited he knew all sorts of women.

2.  I grew up very poor.  After following DH around to two countries, I wanted to stay in the U.S. when we move here.  It took me five years to find a job.  I now have a good paying job.  I don't want to give it up.  When I had a job and we comingled finances, DH took my money to pay his student loans.  I don't want him to have access to my money because he will just be profligate.

3.  Thanks to me, we own two homes and three apartments.  We bought our current house with money I earned, ditto for the three apartments.  DH has terrible credit b/c he is bad with money.  He always had and always has debts.

4.  DH tried to hang me out with the IRS, claiming I owed incomce taxes on the rent generated by my three apartments.  I am sorry, but they withhold my taxes at work.

Anything else? [/quote]

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