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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Without first consulting with me, ExH introduced our four year old daughter to his current girlfriend a few weeks ago. I only found out because DD told me about “daddy’s friend” who joined them on their weekend activity. I talked to my ExH (we are on decent terms) and explained that I was not comfortable with him introducing his girlfriend of a few weeks to DD without even discussing it with me. He acknowledged his error and apologized. In theory, I’m not opposed to DD meeting her dad’s girlfriend but I feel that it should be someone that is likely to be a more permanent presence in his life and he can’t possibly know that after a few weeks. We had previously agreed that no introductions should be made until the relationship passed the 6 month mark. (For additional context, ExH is a serial dater; I’m aware of [b]at least 6 girlfriends since we divorced 2 years ago. Two of which he lived with, and one he was engaged to.[/b] So from my perspective, the likelihood that this woman even makes it to the 6 month mark is low.)

Since the initial introduction was made, ExH has asked several times if I will allow DD to spend time with new GF and her son. I have refused but ExH’s response has been “ok but we are still going to do xyz” so I end up picking DD up early and cutting short her time with her dad. On one hand, I feel guilty about cutting into their time, but on the other hand, I’m annoyed with ExH for not putting his kid first and making me the bad guy. This weekend coming up is the birthday party for the GF’s son and of course, ExH asked if our daughter could attend. I don’t want her spending time with and developing attachments to people who are unlikely to be permanent fixtures, but maybe I’m overthinking? Should I just let her go and give up on enforcing the “6 months” rule that ExH and I had agreed to? 
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