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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Get involved. Ask the other parents. Plan a great activity and invite the other boys over. Make sure you have really good snacks and drinks when they come (sounds dumb, but it's a great way to be the cool house to hang out in). [/quote]

OP here - I have already done this...offering good snacks/activities, etc. Kids seem to have fun but no reciprocal invitations.

Regarding the poster who said I need to get over my own insecurities...not sure where this is coming from. There are parents I've asked several times and they simply don't respond, or they will say they have other plans but never follow up with a good time. I'm not irritated with these kids, and I'm not insecure, but I'm also not going to force something to happen and put those parents in an awkward situation.
For example, should I really initiate a playdate with a kid who told my son "I hate you and never enjoyed hanging out with you" after years of friendship? Sure, maybe this is on my kid, and yes I agree that it's not others' job to put up with my kid's issues...but it doesn't seem wise to force time spent with a kid who doesn't want his company. You might think that is insecure, but I see it otherwise.

Regarding talking to other parents...yes, I am considering doing it, and yes, I can do so without getting defensive. A few of the parents are indirect and might even punish their kid for not being nice to others, so I'm not certain my outreach will get good results and might even backfire. So yes I know I need additional perspectives, and I am willing to put myself out there, but I want to do so productively.[/quote]

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