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[quote=Anonymous][quote]Hopefully "don't be an asshole and don't put up with assholes" will cover most of it.[/quote]

I read the whole article and found it really interesting.  But I don't think that the above will be sufficient.  The point of the article is that some of these ideas--about entitlement to women's attention and bodies, about expectations that women manage men's emotions, etc.--are pervasive in our culture, so that even people who aren't currently extreme are absorbing them, and may be primed to become more extreme if they get sucked into this stuff.  There are lots of people who think that women don't choose "nice guys," for example, who don't really unpack whether those guys are actually all that nice, or whether they are refusing to date women who don't meet their own standards of attractiveness.

I think you have to talk to your kids really explicitly about gender roles, about how to manage disappointment (romantic and otherwise), about healthy and unhealthy ways to express anger and sadness, about what to do if you see someone else behaving in toxic or abusive ways, etc.  Because while "incel" culture is extreme, it's an outgrowth of misogynistic, toxic stuff that was already floating around.[/quote]

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