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[quote=Anonymous]I'm so sorry OP.  I lost my sad fairly unexpectedly in November of 2017 and I was lucky enough to have 4 days before he passed saying goodbye and just being with him.  I cried more in those four days then I have ever cried in my life.  Once he died, I felt sort of a relief- like I was so scared he was about to die but once it happened I was like OK.  I also had my two kids (12 and 10 at the time) with me so was helping them through their grief as well.  My older sister was more "stable" during the last four days we had with him, but fell apart after and was a mess for almost a year- depressed, gained like 5o pounds, couldn't;t get out of bed.  I felt sad but ok, was able to function, etc.  Fast forward to now, where my sister and step mom finally feel like their fog is lifting, and I am having the opposite where I feel SO SAD and miss him so incredibly much.  Just in the last few weeks I have had so many random moments where I remember I can't pick up the phone and call him, or I think of something and think "dad would love this".  My son also just celebrated his Bar Mitzvah which was incredibly hard without my dad here.  I guess my point is that I think grief comes in waves and affects us differently.  My good friends who have been there have all said there are days when it hits you like a Mack truck out of nowhere.  They are so right.  Sending you big hugs.  It is a shitty ass club to belong to.[/quote]

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