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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]People are also saving up for assisted living. Which is ore nursing home witj staff on site in case you need help.and yes it would be nice if all the parents could live with their children in old age. But you'd need bigger houses, have your own kids earlier etc. I find on average Americans are less close with their extended families than other cultures. Independence and self reliance is prized and parental help and "strings" and involvement in your life is eschewed. This is compounded by moving for school then for jobs etc. 
one can't have everything. Staunch independence, being kicked out in your own at 18 or refusing any help or involvement when your 20 and 30 and "making it on your own" and then an about face and taking on elderly people who you may not even know that well anymore. 
I'm not saying it's good or bad, just an observation. 
I was born elsewhere and dh is from here. But we are close with both our families who are near by (and mine would have moved wherever I needed up buying a house and raising children). It's hard as everyone is in everyone's business. We spend a lot of time together. We have gotten monetary and childcare help over the years. And in turn provided help to care for illness, yardwork etc etc. Everyone is still young but it may come to us getting a bigger house one day and having one set move with us. We know this is a possibility. [/quote]

You don't NEED a bigger home.  Many of us live in small homes and make it work.  For me, the issue was getting help.  I couldn't leave my MIL home alone and had young kids who had school, their own appointments, activities, etc. and it was a safety issue for her and for us.  I also had my own health issues.  We could not afford child care or adult care and we tried adult day cares and they were terrible.  We never got child care or financial help over the years, you are lucky.  There was absolutely no money around to do that.  The only option for help was medicaid nursing home.[/quote]

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