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[quote=Anonymous]I have a 3-year-old DS. For the past 15 years at least, or since I can remember, my mother has had an alcohol problem- she says she is coping with anxiety. She drinks 1 to 2 bottles of wine per night most nights and also can get pretty nasty when she drinks. She has gotten very defensive when my sisters and I have brought this up to her and my father in the past. I thought she was doing better lately but it turns out I was wrong. DH, me, and DS visited last month and stayed with my parents, which is a 3-hour flight away. Our trip was fine until the last night, after my father left for a business trip. DH, me, and DS came home from visiting with some cousins and my mother was absolutely shitfaced. Slurring words, stumbling, starts yelling at us. She was supposed to take us to the airport in 7 hours. I called my father and told him what was going on and that they need to get her shit together.

My mother has a flight booked to come watch DS while DH and I go on a mini vacation with some friends for 2 nights, a 2-hour drive away, next month. DH and I discussed it and will not be able to leave DS alone with my mother. She is extremely upset about this, says she is angry that we think she would endanger her grandson, etc. She is wonderful with DS, however after her performance last month we don't feel it is safe to leave her alone with DS overnight, much less for an entire weekend. She apologized for losing control, said that she has been stressed lately and is working on using better coping skills. I told her this has been an issue for 15 years and that I'm finished listening and am not going to attempt to make her feel better about her drinking.

Her drinking has damaged our relationship throughout the years to the point where I don't even want to speak to  her. I want to go no-contact and am wondering if that is the right approach. I want to be supportive, but I've heard the "I've been stressed lately" song and dance over and over to the point that I just don't care anymore- I need to do what's best for DS. I am not a substance abuse counselor and don't care to hear about her struggles. She's hurt our relationship enough and I don't care to have a relationship until she's sober. Is this harsh or the right thing to do? This has been going on for so long at this point that all I feel is angry and annoyed. [/quote]

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