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[quote=Anonymous]*Obscuring gender here intentionally*

My spouse feels really stuck with where they are at work. I get it and while I don't agree 100% I am certainly willing to listen -- to a point.

I have been listening to the same bitching and moaning since they didn't get promoted six months ago and I'm just kind of done. I've also listened to it every time it hasn't happened until it does. I don't want to be, but I have literally nothing to offer but a silent audience or some weak sort of affirmation which actually ends up pissing them off b/c they think I am being patronizing.

It would be one thing if this was confined to a few minutes conversation about "stuff," but it's not. It's like a 20 minute speech on the injustices or the world, and if my responses aren't perfect, or God forbid, if there's any level of need to do anything else - hey! the house is burning down! - it's taken as a personal affront.

This is probably happening at least two times a week, sometimes more.

They are in an intense study course so I've been trying to make allowances but I am picking up all the slack - they literally pay no bills, book nothing for house maintenance, etc.

Two moments from the weekend: 1) when picking up food for kids and asking if I wanted anything and I said I'd like a large Diet Coke, refused and said that was stupid and a waste (tween daughter came to me later and said she felt sorry for me); 2) couldn't be bothered and was totally annoyed when tween daughter knocked on door of office to show her Easter dress.

I so, so, so wish I had made the break some 10 years ago.[/quote]

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