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[quote=Anonymous]Adult adoptee here (adopted as an older infant).  My oarents have always, and now in my late 30’s, still celebrate my “gotcha day.”  It’s basically a mini-birthday... when i was a kid i would get a small gift like a CD (ROFL) or book, and I would get to choose what we had for dinner.  It was a nice “family anniversary” kind of thing, and my sibling who is also adopted had theirs celebrated the same way.  
No birth kids so there wasn’t any weird comparison. 
Now as an adult i still get a small gift and typically a call from my mom. It’s still nice to have the date acknowledged, although i think part of it is that it WAS always acknowledged so there’s no good way of stopping :-)
DH (not adopted) honestly doesn’t get it, but in some ways it’s more my birthday than my birthday. My birthday is the day I was born, but my gotcha day is the day that made me “me.”  
Backstory: was already surrendered and in foster care, closed adoption, and I’ve never considered that adoption “broke up my birth family” or etc.  i didn’t really HAVE a birth family, ya know?  So gotcha day is completely a positive thing in my book. Yes, the name might be kinda silly, but it’s what people called it back then and my parents adopted (ha) the name. 
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