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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If there is no reasonable end to long distance, it won’t work. You spend all your time longing and waiting. And that’s won’t end for years and years. It will just get too painful to wait for the next visit.

Plus, 8 hours is tough. If he leaves right after work Fri, he’ll get in at 1am (if you are lucky). And he’d have to leave by 2pm Sunday. So about 36 hours together (16 spent sleeping) so really only 20 (maybe 25, if you cut sleep). And he has to drive 16 hours for a 20 hour visit. That he has to share with your kid.

That’s going to get old really fast![/quote]

+1. I’m currently in a LDR, and I’m a parent.  I see BF once a month for 2-4 days at a time. The only way it works for me is by having that monthly time to connect. I share custody with my ex, and my parents like having time with my kids. We have very intense feelings, and feel like the sacrifice is worth it. We also have an end in sight. This makes it tolerable when you get lonely. I get worn out on the waiting at times, but we talk multiple times a day and find ways to stay connected while apart.

For the the right person, the wait is worth it. Most people on DCUM think people are disposable, and you should date someone else. I don’t have a real and intense connection with just anyone. I’d rather spend my limited time with someone I really love.

FWIW, I haven’t introduced BF to my kids. I think it’s too complicated for them and don’t see the need until he moves and becomes a part of their life. If you’ll only be able to see him with the kids, I think that would be a really complicated situation for them. When BF visits me and I have custody, we do day dates while the kids are in school and I get sitters for the evenings. [/quote]

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