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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]First off dh dumped me early on. I either had to trust him or move on but there's no in between.

Secondly I think you are attracted to the dynamic you have. You prefer it when he us unavailable but the exhaustion you feel when he is there reflects disengaging. Have you always been attracted to unavailability?[/quote]

This. You either get past it or you don’t. Staying with him and holding back a piece of your heart forever, or resenting him, or holding it against him and refusing to forgive...aren’t viable options. Either stay and forgive, or go. And there does seem to be a part of you that is energized by the chase, and deflates when you get what you want.

Your thread is very self-focused. I don’t sense a deep love for your BF; it’s all about what he does for you, what needs of yours he meets and how he makes you feel (or not feel). Do you even love the guy for reasons beyond any of that? What is your connection like?  The dynamic of you resenting him for the start of your relationship while he fetches you organic food and “worships” you...and you measuring the value of your relationship by what he does for you...is toxic.

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