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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm a guy raised in the Midwest in the 70s. I seem to have learned at an early age that people do not want to be bothered by your emotional concerns. So, when I feel negative emotions, my impulse is to keep them to myself. And, in fact, when I've very occasionally shared feelings of unhappiness, sadness, anger, etc. with my wife, I don't feel like anything positive ever came out of not just bottling that shit up. So, that's the background. I read a relationship blog post from a woman who was talking about feeling better about her relationship when, after some couple's counseling, her husband just let her talk about her emotions -- occasionally just sort of repeating back her emotional state and asking her to tell her more.

Does this kind of thing actually help the relationship? It didn't sound like the husband in that scenario was actually engaging in a meaningful way. Or maybe it's more of a one way, gendered kind of thing? Helping the wife work through her emotions is generally positive, but the man expressing his emotions is not generally very helpful?

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Whoops, should be "just sort of repeating back her emotional state and asking her to tell [b]him[/b] more"[/quote]

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