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[quote=Anonymous]My mom was a young mom, I was 22 when I was born and she had my brother at 21. I am now 42. I noticed as she became an empty nester she started really spreading her wings in terms of interests which made us all happy. For 20 something years she stayed home and took care of myself and 2 brothers. Got us to school, our many sports and activities and really was a fantastic parent along with my dad (but who had a medical practice so was not home a lot). Most of the child rearing fell to my mom.

Anyway around 57 she took up golf, tennis and yoga. By 60 she was teaching yoga. By 61 she started a travel group for women 55-65. They travel 3-4 times a year for 12 weeks all around the world. She has always loved travel and this was a perfect thing for her to do. She has as a result developed many friend groups and is the busiest 64 year old I. know! She has changed even in personality, she is super liberal now- whereas she was a conservative growing up.

She has friends young and old, does things like pottery making, graphic design and works on antique dollhouse in her spare time (there isn't much). She lives out of state but maintains a very active social media presence so I get to see and hear all about it (besides when we talk/see each other). My dad is fine with it as he is very busy with his practice but in about 5 years when he retires I am not sure where/how he will fit into her busy life as his entire life has been about practicing medicine and an occasional golf game.

Love that she is so happy but its' weird that I feel like I don't know her the way I always had. The person I knew growing up and who I could tell my inner most secrets to is not the person she is today. I think this is quite unusual and just wondering if any one has had this happen? I recently started therapy for the first time ever, and the therapist thinks that because she got married and had kids so young, she is now doing all the things she would have probably wanted to do in her 20's,etc...never really thought about it that way but makes sense though it doesn't make my own feelings any easier to try and grapple.

I was away for away with my husband for medical conference in China and a few days before we were leaving, she calls and tells me she is considering going to a Buddhist retreat but the program is for one month. That just struck me in a weird way, like who goes away and leaves their life behind for one month?  I am supposed to see her tomorrow and just not sure how to react.[/quote]

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