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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Educators can also be “saviors” - acting like their extra unpaid hours are for the kids.

My DH works at a private in DC, and he is very careful about what he agrees to, even in exchange for a striped (which is usually paltry per hour of actual work involved).  But we have had conversations about whose kids are really his - ours or his students - and where his loyalties should lie in the final analysi. [/quote]

Yes, there are plenty of teachers who are not just saviors but also martyrs. I had a few years of being that way myself, but I snapped out of it once I had my own child. I had to decide if I was going to spend extra time volunteering (unpaid) for the sake of other people's children or spend that time with my own child and family. I already give plenty to the school (time and money), so I had to stop feeling guilty about not giving even more. Teachers are constantly made to feel guilty that they aren't doing enough for the kids, and that's how schools get away with having teachers do things like sponsor after school clubs unpaid. Plenty of people drink the Kool Aid, and once you're on the other side you realize how much administrators prey on your sense of guilt. The only way to stop the cycle is to stop the guilt. Your DH can't have it all and he needs to prioritize his family. [/quote]

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