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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DH is an educator and is very involved at his school. We have two small children and I am starting to resent the time he spends at work, after hours. We both work out of the house full time, but I feel the need to rush home and see my family after work. He coaches one team, works with another intramural team, and plays games with alumni. That’s three days per week that he’s at work for 14+ hours per day. There are also dances, Saturday detentions, fundraisers and other school things that come up. Then when he’s home, he’s emailing, taking parent calls, analyzing data, etc.

To be honest, and this is terrible to admit, I would mind less if he made more money. Then we could use the money for a house cleaner or other outsourced help to make life easier. But for $70K per year at a private in DC, I feel like his employer is taking advantage of him. (On top of this, he’s an administrator, so does not get summers off. He lets his PTO hours expire. I’m tired of this.)

Can spouses of educators chime in here with what you think are feasible, after-work extracurricular hours that your spouse volunteers for?[/quote]

I think it is hard when your spouse is the administrator of a school. I know of a person who is principal in a public school in MD.   Its not a whole lot of money (around $175K?), but there is very little time for home. If you have kids it becomes harder and if you have more than 1-2 kids, its exponentially difficult. Can you get an AuPair for some time?  He needs to use his PTO - probably by taking a day off each week.  I have a friend who takes Fridays off, just to maintain her PTO and prevent days from expiring.  [/quote]

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