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[quote=Anonymous]I’m in my late 20s and have always been interested in men who are 10-15 years older than me. That has always been my preference and my desired age range. The reason I prefer such specific large age gap is because I find these men are more mature and have life experience than those my age. Which to me means, they know how to deal with a woman because they’ve had plenty of relationship experience.

However, recently I’ve been very interested in a guy I met through a mutual friend. I started to see that has all the ideal qualities I always wanted in a man. When I got to know him, I realized he ticked all my boxes. I started to fall for him very hard. I have never felt that way about a guy in ages. I never asked about his age but always assumed he is roughly around 9-10 years older than me, due to his knowledge and broad depth of understanding regarding various topics.

I just came to learn he is 4 years older than me. He’s in his early 30s. I felt a little shocked and upset. I never found men few years older attractive in a sense to be relationship material because I viewed them more as friends than lovers. But now, my heart is telling me to continue and persue this relationship but my head is telling me that ‘he’s not your type as he’s not the age group you always wanted.’

Also, I forgot to add that I prefer the older guys because women age faster and I will continue to look younger in his eyes. I’m insecure and hesitant to persue this guy because I keep thinking a few years down the track once I have children and hit my mid 30s I will look older and he won’t be interested in me and might persue younger girls. He isn’t the type to do that, but these thoughts keep running through my head.

I need advice, especially from women who’ve been in relationships with men who were a couple years older than them and those with large age gap. Were you able to find maturity in the younger guys and were they completely committed to you or did you have struggles with them that could have been avoided if you were with an older man 10+ years? [/quote]

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