Reply to We've been dating for less than a year. Now he has a serious, life-altering illness.

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "We've been dating for less than a year. Now he has a serious, life-altering illness."

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous]My boyfriend and I are both 29 and we've been dating for almost a year, as of May. A while back, I would entertain the idea of moving in together when our respective leases were up in July, but we hadn't really talked about it and I wouldn't have said we were "there" yet in our relationship. But things have/had been going well, we've grown more serious, I do care for him a lot and it's been a long hard road to find each other.

But recently he's been hospitalized for severe symptoms of untreated Lyme disease, and it's so severe that he may be permanently disabled. I don't know much about the long term prognosis but it's possible that he may never be in the same physical shape again. I care about him and I'm by his side as he's going through this, but the main thing that brought us together was our love of hiking and mountain climbing and other outdoor activities - all kinds of things that it looks like he may never be able to do again. I'm in general a constantly physically active person, outside of work, and I've always felt that I need my life partner to share this with me.

There are other things we enjoy doing together, sure, but this has been our main thing. I don't know how happy I would be to give up these kinds of activities, between having a sedentary office job and a boyfriend who may have limited functions. I really don't know what to do. On one hand, I care about him, and I know he would be devastated if I left him when he is sick, and there are other ways to enjoy life together, and for all I know a full recovery might be possible (though it doesn't sound good). Also, one's physical abilities will always eventually be limited, and sometimes sooner than we think.... ANYONE can get injured or get a serious illness like Lyme, or get cancer, or who knows what, and all life changes. But on the other hand, we aren't married and haven't invested anything together, we are still very young, and I do have my own life and happiness to think about and I've only been dating this person for a year. But it seems like a REALLY shitty thing to do to break up with someone for being sick, and I feel that I would be only hurting him even more.

What would you do in this situation? What is the right thing to do?[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics