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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]#1 was the most difficult for us. He was our most difficult child plus adjusting to parenting life wasn't easy for us. #2 and #3 were a joy. You're already in it so it's just more of the same in my mind.[/quote]

This seems the most logical to me... going from 0 kids to 1 kid is a HUGE life-altering shift. I don't understand how people can say going from 1 to 2 is harder...[/quote]

I don't understand how people have such a hard time understanding that other people have different experiences.

I can understand why some people find the second harder.  With one, you can hand off the baby, and each of you can have some time for yourself pretty easily.  With two, that gets harder.  It's also possible that one parent was doing most of the work and managing to handle the stress or resentment, but can't keep that up with two--the other parent suddenly has to step up and that can create some real issues.  Logistics get harder.  Finances get tighter.  Maybe the first baby was pretty easy, but the second kid has a more challenging temperament, behavioral problems, or health issues.  The first kid can have a hard time adjusting to a sibling, which can cause behavioral challenges.    [/quote]

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