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[quote=Anonymous]9 yo DS is such a good kid, does awesome in school and has tons of friends, but DH is fixated on sports.  So when DS brings home a great report card, it's expected and gets no praise. 
 The thing is, DS is decent, but is not and probably will never be, a phenomenal athlete.  That means on every car ride back from practice, DS has to listen to DH go on and on.  Yesterday was (according to him), "You've been doing this for over a year now and you aren't getting better.  You need to try harder."  80% of the time when he gets home from practice, from being with DH in the car, DS is on the verge of tears.  If DS was a bad athlete, it might be better because DH would give up but now DH just pushes him so hard.

We have 3 kids so I can't always be the one to pick kids up from practice. Sometimes it's 7 yo DD who comes home from gymnastics in tears because of DH's pep talk.  I have tried so many times to get DH to understand that he needs to back off but he just does not see it.  I don't understand how he can't see that he's being that cliche horrible dad that makes his kids never want to try anything anymore, but I have come to the conclusion that he honestly can not help himself from saying all this crap and it has to do with how he was brought up.  It drives me crazy and it's the #1 thing we argue about.  I try to be a safe place for my kids and let them vent about DH.  Yesterday DS told me, "When I get so mad, in my head I call him a fat motherf*cker."  It was quite a shock to hear my good kid use that language and when I asked him where he heard that phrase from, he said, "That's what Hamilton called John Adams and you said that was the worst thing you could call someone."

Anyone else have to deal with something similar?  It makes me so angry and I don't want to be near DH on days like that, and honestly none of the kids want to be near him either.  [/quote]

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