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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is part of being 4. I would try to deal with this with humor in order to give her a graceful out and let her save face and "change her mind." Don't devolve into a stand off. "Shoes, why doesn't Ella want to put you away? Left shoe, I'm going to put you on the shelf. What's that, you are missing your sister? I don't blame you for being lonely (Try to get a laugh out of her.) Go on with what you were doing tidying up. Come back in two minutes. "Did you get shoes put away? We have x and y (pleasant things) to get done today." If so, say nothing more about it. If not, keep moving and keep busy. Do not get angry. [b]Do not make this about control.[/b][/quote] I mean, that's easier said than done, but it's true. If you get in a stand-off with a four-year-old, you've already lost. Humor, deflection, ignoring it...all are better strategies. And let her scream. Don't try to console her, or reason with her, or anything. [/quote]
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