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[quote=Anonymous]It takes a village and I have no village.  We have no local family (family is thousands of miles away) and neither of us is close with aunts, uncles and cousins (who also live thousands of miles away).  I'm an only child and my husband has one sister who he is not close with.  We moved to this area from out of state, so don't have a network of college/grad school friends.  I had to make a whole new social network and I have worked hard to make a lot of mom friends in the area through mom groups, and we get together often for playdates, but they're not the kind of friends who "show up" for me, even though I try to show up for them by doing thoughtful gestures, bringing meals for new babies, hosting baby showers, offering to watch their kids, etc.

For example I recently had surgery, and my husband had to go on a business trip the next day.  It was hard taking care of the kids while I was still under the weather.

Since family is not local we had no help there.  I would have appreciated some companionship from a friend, or even a simple check-in to see how I was doing, but they didn't even do that (and they knew I was having surgery and that my husband was going on a business trip).  I guess I should have hired a home health aide or something?

It's hard raising kids without a village.  DH and I work and kids go to full-day preschool with aftercare, so no nanny.  Kids are 3 and 5.[/quote]

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