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[quote=Anonymous]My husbands family is all local (parents, 2 siblings, and their respective families.) There are a lot of family get togethers and it sort of rotates who is hosting. I don't dislike his family and don't mind seeing them when they host but I have a full blown panic attack (which sadly manifests as anger at my husband) when we need to host. I think I just get overwhelmed by the thought of all of the work. And my husband "helps" but I have to tell him very specifically what I need help with. Ie: he'll grocery shop with a specific list but won't menu plan or calculate how much food we'll need. He'll make a dish by following the recipe but doesn't think ahead like how to plan out what needs to go in the oven when, or do we have enough food, or dessert, or we'll need to put the table leaf in, etc.

My parents didn't really host much of anything growing up and I was never taught to host properly. I'm always worried the dish will be too complicated or it will be over/under done or there won't be enough or it will make a huge mess in the kitchen right before everyone arrives or whatever. I can't relax at all during the event. And then when everyone leaves it looks like a bomb went off in my house. Which brings me back to, I just don't like hosting.

Is there a way to "learn" this so that I'm not miserable? If I tell my husband to just "handle it" he'll order Papa Johns pizza for everyone, I know this because I tried this once. I've thought about just ordering something like the Zoe's Kitchen Family Dinner, etc. but we can't do that every time.

Thoughts?[/quote]

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