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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If you only see each other infrequently, given you live a days travel apart, be prepared for him to say no. I would not have the discussion over the phone. [/quote]

OP here. This would really be part of a larger conversation, as far as I’m concerned - how to end up being in the same place. This is a man I could see myself marrying. ([b]We dated many years ago, and he’s been in my life for longer than a decade.[/b])[/quote]

Not knowing the full story, sounds like you dated, it did not work out for any number of reasons but you are comfortable with him.How does he feel? What does he say about a commitment, then and now?[/quote]

We were in our twenties when we first dated, and in totally different places in our lives - he’s eight years older than I am, and was much more serious than I was when we met. He was also something of a playboy. Now he’s in his forties and ostensibly seeking more stability and marriage. The distance is an issue, but we love each other. [b]Not sure how he would feel about a commitment/ closing the gap[/b]. [/quote]

This is confusing me. If you love each other and have serious conversations, how could you not know how he feels about marriage? And what is the big impediment to living in the same area?[/quote]

He wants to get married - at least, he says he does. [b]Our iteration this time around has only been a few months[/b], which is why I haven’t really gone there with him. [/quote]

OK, so in reality this is a new relationship. I say this because I broke up with someone, reunited years later but we were somewhat different people. Not together anymore but still stay in touch. If you already have children, what's the hurry to get remarried? Why not say, "I am also responsible for my children and rather than have a complicated love life, would like it if we only saw each other until we determine whether an engagement and wedding date make sense"? Has he ever met your kids? [/quote]

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