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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]First, I know I should see a therapist, which I am planning to do soon. I have been dealing with infertility for many years.

Over time, I have become much less compassionate in general. When acquaintances or colleagues share their troubles or health concerns, I always internally roll my eyes and and think to myself how nice it must be to have such minor problems. For example, I met someone who was sharing about coping with post-partum depression, and my only thought was "you should so happy, you have beautiful and healthy children". A family member was sharing about her difficult job situation and my thought was "so quit and get a new one, this is something you can change (unlike infertility)". At work when colleagues are telling me about their illness or family troubles, I just want to roll my eyes and tell them to get on with, so many people have it much harder.

Of course I never say these things out loud and make the appropriate comments like "that sounds hard", "so sorry to hear that". Generally I am not a person to feel sorry for myself, but I sense that I am becoming that way and it is not a positive change. Outside of seeing a therapist, is there anything that can help these thought patterns?    [/quote]

This could be me. Its been 5 years since I had my initial testing and started on this hellish road. Since the dreadful sense of this will never end in success set in about 2 years ago I have found I dont have any feelings left for other people's troubles. I find myself feeling numb and distant when they describe them and it scares me bc its just another way in which I feel cut off from normal life.  Infertility feels so isolating, in part bc the struggles are considered private, the miscarriages are not announced, and really compared to that person with cancer, I am in good health, yet the invisible hole is consuming me.

One way I combat this is to purposefully try to participate in the joyful parts of life.  For example, I am lucky that a dear friend from high school lives nearby; I go to her kids' soccer games and other events, fun daily things. Somehow participating in other ppls good times seems to revive me. Bc we've known each other forever its been easier to communicate my sadness and she always includes me in a way that others dont think to. 
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