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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Wow, ladies.  I'm glad I'm not the only one, although I'm sorry for your situations. My husband is angry at me often because he feels I was not the right person to get married to, because I don't share his passions and am less intellectual than he is.[b] But neither of us wants to split up because of the kids[/b]. He's depressed because he has no friends, yet he does not seem to like anyone and finds normal social interactions "superficial" and "a waste of time"; yet he does nothing to try to figure out how to meet  with people he might connect with (whoever that is). He's also bitter about the way his life has turned out, separate from anything having to do with me.  I am much more relaxed when he's not home, because I don't have to worry about his sudden bad moods.  When he travels for work it feels like a gift.  Anyway, you guys aren't alone.[/quote]

What does this even mean? You’re okay with your kids being in a home where their parents have a dysfunctional relationship? Do you think they don’t know that their father isn’t depressed and awful to be around? What exactly is the positive thing about making them live in this situation? I’m genuinely curious how you square this. [/quote]

The kids emotional well-being is hardly the only factor.  In a divorce you lose half you time with your kids.  Would you send you kid to boarding school?  If you would never dream of such a thing because it would be terrible to miss out on their childhood, then you know why people sacrifice a lot to avoid seeing their kids only half the time.  If you would give away 50% of your money, then you know that the high costs of divorce are also a huge strain on families and that financial burden definitely impacts kids.  And leaving your bad marriage doesn’t mean the kids won’t still have to deal with all the same issues between their parents.  The only alternative is if one parent abandons the kids which is hardly better for them.  If you CAN deal with a bad marriage long term, it isn’t the wrong choice for everyone and a big part of that equation is the kids.[/quote]

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