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[quote=Anonymous]A lot of kids don’t come out to their parents until later. Sometimes it’s about fear of rejection. Sometimes it’s because they know they’re gay inside, but they need some kind of experience to solidify their sexual preference so they can say with certainty. Most people, especially older people, will ask how they can know they’re gay if they haven’t been with anyone yet.

Basically, you’re worrying about normal relationship worries everyone has about their kids. Like PP said, aside from birth control, it’s mostly the same issues re: sex. We all care about kids making safe choices, emotional issues, if they’ll be accepted by peers, if they’ll find good matches, etc.

Sex and drugs should be an ongoing conversation topic, not just a one time discussion. The next time a safety talk opportunity presents itself, maybe throw out a “whomever you have a relationship with” or “he or she” instead of “some lucky girl” type of talk. Don’t go overboard, but show him you’re open to the idea of him being gay. Make sure you’re not being heteronormative in all your language and actions anymore. Hopefully he’s seen that all along, but I’m guessing he probably only heard you and your wife talk about his future partner in heterosexual terms. Kids fear rejection from parents. It’s normal to keep this part of himself private until he feels safe and comfortable sharing it with you. [/quote]

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