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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I adopted as a single man -- although I'm gay -- at 38. I'm also a teacher.

I live in DC & went through the public adoption system (which has laws that enable both gay people and single people to adopt). I got a wonderful baby. He had 'scary' things in his system at birth, but he is now a healthy and normal 11 year old. No issues that are more than what 'normal' people get.

I adopted because I hit a point when I wasn't sure that I'd ever find my 'one' life partner & I knew that I really wanted to be a parent. I do not regret the choice one bit. It is hard sometimes. I don't ever get nights off. I work harder than the other parents on my block. But this is what I wanted, this is what I signed up for, and I appreciate every minute of it. Even the many minutes that have made my hair turn grey. I love my son so much & hope that you have the chance to do the same. Best of luck.[/quote]

Would you mind giving the contact info of someone through the public adoption system? Do you mean foster care? My fiancé and I are in this process too. We’re a gay couple and also unfortunately not made of money. Would LOVE an infant. [/quote]

You have to get licensed by CFSA & they give you the routes of either fostering or adopting. If you say that your goal is to adopt an infant, they will tell you that it's not possible and that there are no infants that will be available. They are trying to place older children. But if you stay in the system, stay involved, and stay patient, infants do become available for fostering -- children who the social workers know will become eligible for adoption (the social workers have seen every horrible situation imaginable, and they can tell which biological parents will never get their acts together and eventually lose parental rights). They don't advertise those babies. But you have to get in the system and have an open mind beforehand. I met several people who (like me) also got infants through CFSA. [/quote]

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