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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It sounds like you are in the all or nothing diet mindset. I’ve been there and done that. It typically leads to failure, frustration, and ultimately giving up. Which bring you back to picking a new strict approach and starting the cycle all over again. You need a more moderate approach that isn’t so restrictive. When I stopped putting things off limits and allowed  myself to eat them guilt free it made it easier to not hate myself for cheating by eating a rice cake.

Pick a small habit you can stick with And start from there. Work in one thing at a time to build self efficacy. Right now you don’t believe you can do it so you will yourself to fail. But showing yourself that you can do something will build your confidence. Starting small might mean it takes longer to get there but continuing to fail  takes a long time too. [/quote]

Thanks. I agree. The problem is that I pick a small habit to focus on and then make up for it in other ways. So I might say that I'm giving up candy and refined sugar but then go overboard with rice cakes and peanuts. Or I might add a day of exercise and then that "allows" me to eat chips with my Chipotle order since I'm not getting rice. Etc, etc. -OP[/quote]

Sounds like you need to pick different habit to focus on. Enough of the "I am giving up all refined sugar." Basically never pick a habit that you can't honestly see yourself sticking with for the long term.  Instead say I will eat 5 servings of vegetables today or maybe 2 if you currently aren't eating any or I will exercise 2 times this week. Pick something you can accomplish, don't go saying I will go to the gym 6 days if you know that is unrealistic. Also set a calorie range for yourself and tell yourself you will stick with it for a week, no compromising, no giving in. Honestly there comes a point where you just need to do it. Sometimes change is doing the hard things when you don't want to and even when they are uncomfortable.[/quote]

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